Living Up to Our Eulogy

Anyone’s passing leaves friends and relatives with a difficult task. Who will write the eulogy?

The task of testifying to someone’s qualities is usually given to a close family member or best friend, but in the cases of Joe O’Brien, Kenny Cuglewski or Tony DiSalvo (all of whom passed away in 2024), any one of their friends in the Knights of Columbus Lafayette Council or Holy Name Altar & Rosary Society at St. Michael Church could have handled the task—using Scripture for inspiration. Take Paul’s letters, for example.

Any church organization like these depends on many people of diverse talents to help it live up to a mission statement. Just so, a human body has many parts to help it accomplish the mission God intended for every member. As Paul tells the Corinthians in Sunday’s second reading (1 Corinthians 12:12-30), God has constructed the body so that there may be no division in it—so that the different parts may have the same concern for one another. If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it; if one part is honored, all the parts share its joy.

Sharing joy was a talent each of these gentlemen had, as anyone on the receiving end of one of Joe’s jokes can testify, or those who saw Kenny bust a move on any dance floor doing “The Sprinkler,” “The Shopping Cart” or “The Lawn Mower.” And Tony was known by his closest friends in the Holy Name Society as “Mr. Fish Fry” for the ownership he took of his duties during this annual Lenten tradition at St. Michael.

Imagine these organizations were corporations. In the best ones, co-workers operate as they do in their private lives, making others feel they’re teammates in the business of living—even the co-workers on lower corporate strata.

In Sunday’s first reading (Nehemiah 8:2-4a, 5-6, 8-10) and the reading from Luke’s gospel (Luke 1:1-4; 4:14-21), for example, both Ezra the priest and Jesus the Savior take on the job of reading the word of God in a public forum. These two couldn’t be further apart in status, but both deliver the same message to everyone: Rejoice! The Lord has set you free from worldly cares and opened a channel of unity with the Divine!

In one of Joe O’Brien’s favorite books about Thomas Aquinas, Bishop Robert Barron writes about the teamwork of being:

“As the ground of being, the deepest source of the universe’s existence, God is that power in which we find our authentic freedom, in whom we can be most ourselves,” Barron teaches. “The ultimate happiness of human beings is coming home to ourselves by embarking on the fascinating journey outward to God.”

We all play an important role in that mission to free each other from worldly bonds and divisions while we’re still in the world. In life’s job of being, the journey’s end is to become one with God’s Holy Spirit. That means living our eulogy for each other before someone else has to write one for us.

–Tom Andel

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